As a recovering people pleaser...

I know something you might not know!

One thing I tend to struggle with at times is the balance between having boundaries and still maintain healthy relationships.

As a recovering people pleaser, I think I know one or two things about this topic, so stay with me.

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In this very painful but necessary journey of building boundaries, I've come to realize that my obsession with having so many friends, being friends with everyone and wanting to be in everyone's good book, I have absolutely forgotten that I am also worthy of having and obtaining boundaries that I set. The thing is, me I even forget to set those boundaries so what are we to do bayi? :(

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If like me, you're a people pleaser in recovery, the next few words might help you.

I typically will have to repent of placing the opinions of people over God's word in my life. Also, introspect (I know it's a "big" word, but how will you know I'm a psychology graduate if I don't use it?) and take note of the ways I've let people's opinions take charge of my life and then think of boundaries to put in place.

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I know, I know it's hard and how will you even find friends if people don't like you abi?

I'm not encouraging you to be a terrible person, but that also doesn't mean your standards for friendships should be lower than your feet c'mon now!

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Also, best believe that the people you want in your life are the ones that wouldn't take advantage of your "people pleaserness".

You can trust God with this aspect of your life.

Fear not, no shaking!!